Don't get me wrong, I love serving my children, doing things for them, etc. And I do. But I also don't want them growing up with the mindset that Mom is the servant. Then eventually, when she pushes back on that, a whole new battle of whining and complaining ensues. As one person put it, "if you serve them until you are confident they are fully capable of serving themselves, you have cultivated slothfulness in them." Sometimes parents don't plan, they react. They get flustered with doing all the work, serving and serving, and feeling like no one is grateful, and then they react. They decide that the "kids needs chores" and "the kids should be helping out around here." And all of a sudden the apple cart is turned over, and confrontation ensues. No planning happened. "They are trying to fix something that is broken, rather than mold something that is growing." We are huge on training. Training him how to do things from the beginning. It's easier and smoother that way.
Put his dirty clothes in the hamper.
Cleans up all his toys when he's done playing.
Carries his plate and cup to the sink.
I spray the table where he eats and he wipes it up.
Puts his shoes by the door when he takes them off.
Hangs up his towel after his bath.
Helps me put the laundry in the washer.
Pulls the laundry out of the dryer and into the basket.
Feeds Macy her food and refills her water.