10.27.2008

Why Was He Placed For Adoption?

Sometimes, people have a negative and misguided view of the circumstances that brought a child to adoption. The common thought is that his birth mother must've been some teenage girl who ended up pregnant through her promiscuity and couldn't take care of the baby, or didn't want to. There are cases, yes, when the birth parents were too young to be parents. But all too often there is a negative view of the child's birth mother that is formed by nothing but stereotypes and egocentric thinking. The devastation in Ethiopia, and other places alike, is an awful thing. These women do not want to place their babies for adoption. They do not want to see them grow up without them. If you have carried and delivered a baby in your own womb, imagine the devastation of knowing you cannot properly feed him and that he might die if he stays with you. What a heart wrenching thing. There are many reasons birth parents are unable to raise a child, and these reasons vary from family to family and country to country. In Ethiopia there is great famine that takes place. Families and children are without food and proper medical care. Children die every day from starvation and treatable illnesses. Just imagine the love it would take, to carry a baby for 9 months and to your devastation not be able to provide for their basic needs, and you choose to place your child for adoption so that your child will be well taken care of and have a better life. When birth parents do this, they have performed the most difficult and purest act of love there is. Often times, the birth parents have died due to the same causes... famine, illness, lack of proper care. So if you think of it, say a prayer for our son's birth parents and all the other birth parents of the many orphaned children in Africa. Ask God to minister to them emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Ask God to bring someone into their life so that they can meet Jesus!

1 comment:

Lee said...

The situation is extremely sobering. I can't even imagine. Thanks for sharing and the encouragement to pray.

May the Lord bless you in your journey.